US EditionDear Abby: Generous favor is rewarded with lies and abuse
- The letter writer reports that his daughter Marie borrowed a large sum, paid a portion, then stopped payments and borrowing, causing estrangement.
- On family borrowing, he explains he has grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild and often lends money or gives it as a gift, treating gifts as final.
- A payment disagreement escalated after Marie claimed her first payment was three times more than recorded, leading to a confrontation where his wife intervened and the writer blocked contact despite Marie's accusations.
- He is deeply hurt and cannot get past the estrangement, and during the past two months he began therapy, antidepressants and an empathy group.
- Dear Abby advised that blocking Marie’s contact was unwise, as she may apologize later; readers called Marie `self-entitled` and hoped the writer’s other children show more character.
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Dear Abby: My daughter lied and treated me badly after I gave her a big loan
DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don’t know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centered, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them that it is a gift. Loans are to be paid back. When it’s given to you, it’s yours.
DEAR ABBY: Generous favour is rewarded with lies and abuse
DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don't know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centred, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them that it is a gift. Loans are to be paid back. When it's given to you, it's yours.
Dear Abby: Kids and grandkids think I’m a chump when it comes to money, but I see what’s happening
DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don’t know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centered, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them that it is a gift. Loans are to be paid back. When it’s given to you, it’s yours.
Dear Abby: How do I deal with a deadbeat, disrespectful daughter who owes me money?
"When the next installment was due, she claimed her first payment was three times more than it had been. When I called her on it, she insisted she had given the higher amount."
Dear Abby: I don’t know if they think I’m senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim
DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don’t know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centered, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them that it is a gift. Loans are to be paid back. When it’s given to you, it’s yours.
Dear Abby: I was generous, helpful when my daughter needed a loan. But now she’s trying to play me
DEAR ABBY: I have grown children, grandchildren and a great-grandchild. I don’t know if they think I am senile, but they seem to think I must cater to their every whim. Most of them are self-centered, thinking only of themselves. They borrow money from me, and sometimes I let them know it is a loan. Other times I give it to them and tell them that it is a gift. Loans are to be paid back. When it’s given to you, it’s yours.
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