Kansans should find it within themselves to use kind words and show a generous attitude to others, writes our columnist. (Photo by Tim Carpenter/Kansas Reflector)Living in Topeka, one grows accustomed to driving past the Westboro Baptist Church members holding up their signs. The Phelps family members aren’t out in force like they used to be, but there’s no missing them at times, and it can make one’s day a bit frustrating to know that hate is s…