Sister's Financial Chaos Causes Emotional Strain
The writer says the sister cannot cover her bills and has not repaid loans, leaving the family worried about homelessness and ongoing emotional strain.
- A reader struggling with an older sister in her 80s reports significant financial dysfunction, noting the sibling cannot make ends meet despite working as a real estate agent and substitute teacher.
- While the reader provides rent money to prevent homelessness, they hold "loan papers" the sister signed years back that remain unpaid, causing emotional strain.
- Tensions escalated after the sister ghosted the reader following a dispute about being excluded from neighborhood outings involving a mutual friend who lives on the reader's new street.
- Dear Eric advises the reader to have a direct conversation about the financial arrangement, stating that support should not be contingent on the outcome while using "I" statements to express feelings.
- To address the sister's chronic mismanagement, Eric suggests considering financial counseling services for older adults or even conservatorship to help prevent future distress and relieve the reader of managing a mess.
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Asking Eric: I need to disengage from my financially dysfunctional older sister
DEAR ERIC: My older sister, with whom I’ve never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can’t make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.
Asking Eric: My sister has been borrowing money — using me — for years and years
Dear Eric: My older sister, with whom I’ve never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can’t make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.I have “loan papers” she signed years back promising to pay me/us back, which never happened. Finally, I put a boundary on us to only pay her rent.
Asking Eric: If I don’t pay sister’s rent, she’ll be homeless, but I feel used and abused
Dear Eric: My older sister, with whom I’ve never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can’t make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.
Alabama Live
Asking Eric: Sister’s financial chaos causes strain
Dear Eric: My older sister, with whom I’ve never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can’t make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.I have “loan papers” she signed years back promising to pay me/us back, which never happened. Finally, I put a boundary on us to only pay her rent.
Beatrice Daily Sun
Sister's financial chaos causes emotional strain
Dear Eric: My older sister, with whom I've never been close, is in her 80s and highly dysfunctional with money and life. She can't make ends meet despite being a real estate agent and a substitute teacher.
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