US EditionDear Abby: Remarried widower should talk with family before making this important decision
- A widower writing to Dear Abby, who lost his first wife 14 years ago and has since remarried and moved to another state, is seeking advice about his final resting place, given that his first wife's gravesite is in a small town about 90 miles away from his current home.
- The widower has two adult children from his first marriage who love their stepmother, and he also has five step-grandchildren who live nearby.
- The man is considering options such as burial with his first wife, burial near his current wife, or cremation with ashes divided between the two locations, expressing that he doesn't personally care but wants to ensure everyone is comfortable and avoid conflict.
- The author of Dear Abby, Abigail Van Buren , suggests discussing his wishes with his wife, children, and extended relatives, and documenting his decision in a disposition form from his current state of residence to prevent potential family drama.
- Dear Abby, founded by Pauline Phillips, consulted the Funeral Consumers Alliance for additional insight, acknowledging that this is likely a common concern for remarried individuals.
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“My first wife died years ago, I don't know if I want to be buried with her or with my current one. What should I do?” : a widower's outburst at the New York Post
After losing his first wife 14 years ago, a man remarried and moved to another state. With a new family and an ever stronger emotional bond with his current wife and his step-grandchildren, he now asks the Dear Abby column for advice: “Should I be buried next to the mother of my children or next to my current life partner? I want to make a choice that puts everyone at ease,” he writes. The man also wonders about cremation, with the possibility o…
Dear Abby: Should I be buried near my late wife or my current wife?
DEAR ABBY: I lost my wife 14 years ago. We were married for 26 years. Our two children are now adults. I have since remarried and moved to another state. My children love and respect their stepmother. I have five step-grandchildren who live within 15 minutes of my current home. I love them, and they love me as well. My first wife’s gravesite is in the small town where we used to live, about 90 miles away.
Dear Abby: Should I be buried with my late wife or my current wife?
Dear Abby: I lost my wife 14 years ago. We were married for 26 years. Our two children are now adults. I have since remarried and moved to another state. My children love and respect their stepmother. I have five step-grandchildren who live within 15 minutes of my current home. I love them, and they love me as well. My first wife’s gravesite is in the small town where we used to live, about 90 miles away.
Dear Abby: Remarried widower is unsure about where to make his final resting place
DEAR ABBY: I lost my wife 14 years ago. We were married for 26 years. Our two children are now adults. I have since remarried and moved to another state. My children love and respect their stepmother. I have five step-grandchildren who live within 15 minutes of my current home. I love them, and they love me as well. My first wife’s gravesite is in the small town where we used to live, about 90 miles away.
Dear Abby: I’m a widower who remarried, and now I’m not sure where I should be buried
DEAR ABBY: I lost my wife 14 years ago. We were married for 26 years. Our two children are now adults. I have since remarried and moved to another state. My children love and respect their stepmother. I have five step-grandchildren who live within 15 minutes of my current home. I love them, and they love me as well. My first wife’s gravesite is in the small town where we used to live, about 90 miles away.
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