US EditionDear Abby: Wedding invitation comes with strings attached
The mom's family excluded her partner from the wedding plus-one despite his role in caring for her special-needs son, causing tension over overlooked caregiving needs.
- The letter-writer cannot travel alone with her special-needs son, so she completed the RSVP with her and her partner's names since her son will stay with her parents.
- Last year, when the aunt's youngest daughter married, she told the aunt and her family she couldn't attend due to her son's severe disability, and now the aunt's son is getting married.
- The invitation specified guest rules, and the family recently told the writer the plus-one was only for her son, ignoring boundaries and excluding the writer's partner who supports her.
- Dear Abby recommended a measured response, advising `Send them your regrets, but do it politely` and urging the writer to clarify if the parents must shoulder all care during the wedding.
- Do the in-laws understand the caregiving needs, as the column warns the invitation may be less a wedding invite than a bid for a gift, and the writer wants to explain her absence.
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Dear Abby: Wedding invitation comes with strings attached
DEAR ABBY: I have a special-needs son and cannot travel with him alone. I have also been in a committed relationship for two years. When my aunt’s youngest daughter got married last year, I clearly stated that I would not be able to attend because of these limitations. Now her son is getting married. The family sent out an electronic invitation and asked for a plus-one. Since my son will be with my parents during the wedding, I filled it out wit…
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