Dear Abby: Husband Came Clean, Sort of, but I Can’t Just Go Back to the Way Things Were
HILLSBOROUGH COUNTY, NEW HAMPSHIRE, JUL 30 – After months of deception involving a younger colleague, the husband admits fault and ends contact, but the wife doubts trust can be restored in their nearly 30-year marriage.
- The speaker discovered months ago that her husband lied about meetings with a 35-year-old colleague and found ongoing texts, which broke her trust.
- This situation arose after the husband acted secretively and defensively when asked for an explanation and denied wrongdoing by calling concerns controlling and a big deal.
- Recently, the husband admitted his behavior was unacceptable, stated he had ceased communication with the colleague, and said he loves only his wife and wants her trust again.
- Experts note that rebuilding trust after infidelity is possible but requires work from both partners and may need therapy and time to heal the marriage.
- Given the broken trust and past secrecy, the speaker feels unable to act as if nothing happened, suggesting that healing their marriage will be a complex and gradual process.
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Dear Abby: I don’t think I can trust my husband after his lies and secrecy
DEAR ABBY: For nearly 30 years, my husband and I shared a close, trusting marriage. Months ago, I caught him lying about meetings he was having with a 35-year-old colleague. Then I discovered months of ongoing texts. When I asked for an explanation, he became angry and defensive. His explanation was it was work-related, that I was too controlling and that I was making a big deal out of nothing. Because I believed this was not a trivial situatio…
Dear Abby: Husband came clean, sort of, but I can’t just go back to the way things were
DEAR ABBY: For nearly 30 years, my husband and I shared a close, trusting marriage. Months ago, I caught him lying about meetings he was having with a 35-year-old colleague. Then I discovered months of ongoing texts. When I asked for an explanation, he became angry and defensive. His explanation was it was work-related, that I was too controlling and that I was making a big deal out of nothing.
Dear Abby: Husband’s about face may have come too late
DEAR ABBY: For nearly 30 years, my husband and I shared a close, trusting marriage. Months ago, I caught him lying about meetings he was having with a 35-year-old colleague. Then I discovered months of ongoing texts. When I asked for an explanation, he became angry and defensive. His explanation was it was work-related, that I was too controlling and that I was making a big deal out of nothing.

Dear Abby: Husband's about-face may have come too late
When I asked for an explanation, he became angry and defensive.
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