US EditionAsking Eric: What Do I Do with Anger I Feel at Siblings Who Don’t Appreciate the Care I’m Giving Our Mom
A primary caregiver manages weekly visits, medical appointments, and Medicaid transitions alone while five siblings nationwide remain largely unengaged, causing emotional strain.
- The primary caregiver visits a healthy 99-year-old assisted-living resident with significant dementia weekly, managing medical appointments and outings.
- Because five siblings live across the country, the primary caregiver assumed responsibility due to the mother's significant dementia and managed finances and the complex Medicaid transition.
- To rally family support, the primary caregiver wrote regular update emails and asked two closer siblings to `model` thank-you emails, while arranging equal shares of a small inheritance for all six children.
- The caregiver says `I'm feeling used and abused` and will continue care but is ready to cut siblings off after minimal appreciation and one replied `when this is over`.
- Amid broader caregiver burnout, many caregiving family members report frustration, so R. Eric Thomas recommends therapy, support groups, and the suggested model reply `We know this is difficult and takes a lot of your time, and we really appreciate it.
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Asking Eric: I love my mother, but taking care of her without my siblings’ support is draining
Dear Eric: About 10 years back, I became the primary caretaker for our mother, even though there are five other siblings scattered throughout the country. She resides at a high-level care assisted-living facility nearby, is a healthy 99, but has some significant dementia.I’m visiting one or two times a week and also take her to all her medical appointments and out to lunch. I arrange FaceTime and phone calls with my siblings, because Mom wants t…
Asking Eric: Managing resentment while caring for mom
Dear Eric: About 10 years back, I became the primary caretaker for our mother, even though there are five other siblings scattered throughout the country. She resides at a high-level care assisted-living facility nearby, is a healthy 99, but has some significant dementia.
Asking Eric: What do I do with anger I feel at siblings who don’t appreciate the care I’m giving our mom
Dear Eric: About 10 years back, I became the primary caretaker for our mother, even though there are five other siblings scattered throughout the country. She resides at a high-level care assisted-living facility nearby, is a healthy 99, but has some significant dementia.
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