Worker Feels Targeted by Colleague's Change in Behavior
Abigail Van Buren says the worker should document each incident and report a hostile work environment, warning the former friend appears determined to get her fired.
- A 17-year company veteran reports professional sabotage from a former friend who scrutinizes her work, excludes her from office events, and reports minor errors directly to supervisors instead of addressing them privately.
- While their children previously bonded through sports and playdates, the relationship has soured in recent years; the colleague now makes disparaging comments about the writer to her son.
- Every mistake triggers an email to management rather than direct conversation, and during a formal meeting, the colleague undermined the writer regarding job duties she had no experience in.
- Abigail Van Buren advises the writer to document every "dirty deed" and present it to management as evidence of a hostile work environment, consulting an attorney if the situation cannot be stopped.
- As children grow older, friendships built on shared interests often drift apart; however, Abigail Van Buren notes this case differs because the former friend appears "determined to get you fired.
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Dear Abby: I used to be good friends with co-worker, but is she now trying to get me fired?
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been employed at the same company for 17 years. I’m the youngest person in the department, and I love my job and the people I work with. One co-worker I used to be close to has a son the same age as mine, and they did sports together and went to each other’s birthday parties. I would invite her over to relax by the pool while our kids played.
Dear Abby: Once-friendly coworker is trying to get me fired, and I don’t know why
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been employed at the same company for 17 years. I’m the youngest person in the department, and I love my job and the people I work with. One co-worker I used to be close to has a son the same age as mine, and they did sports together and went to each other’s birthday parties. I would invite her over to relax by the pool while our kids played.
Dear Abby: Coworker who was once my friend now tries to get me fired
Dear Abby: I’ve been employed at the same company for 17 years. I’m the youngest person in the department, and I love my job and the people I work with. One co-worker I used to be close to has a son the same age as mine, and they did sports together and went to each other’s birthday parties. I would invite her over to relax by the pool while our kids played.
Dear Abby: A coworker and I were once close, but now she’s hostile and I don’t know why
DEAR ABBY: I’ve been employed at the same company for 17 years. I’m the youngest person in the department, and I love my job and the people I work with. One co-worker I used to be close to has a son the same age as mine, and they did sports together and went to each other’s birthday parties. I would invite her over to relax by the pool while our kids played.
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