Nick Di Maria thought he was defying his parents when he picked up the trumpet and wound his way to a jazz career. His parents — dad Michael, a Waterbury cop; mom Claudette, a social worker — suggested he listen to the brass-powered bands Chicago and Tower of Power when he was growing up. But that was their music. He did love music, though. He chose the trumpet in fifth grade because … Chevy Chase looked cool miming playing it in a Paul Simon mu…