Psychology says people who sit quietly in group conversations instead of fighting to be heard aren't shy or disengaged — they're processing at a depth that most people have forgotten how to reach

Psychology says people who sit quietly in group conversations instead of fighting to be heard aren't shy or disengaged — they're processing at a depth that most people have forgotten how to reach

You’ve been at this dinner. There are eight people around the table. Three of them are talking over each other. Two more are waiting for a gap so they can jump in. Someone is checking their phone. And then there’s the one person who hasn’t said much all night. You can see they’re paying attention. They’re tracking everything. They laughed in the right place earlier, made a small comment that landed well, then went quiet again. The loud ones at t…