"Be the gay you want to see in the world" by Gary Albert

"Be the gay you want to see in the world" by Gary Albert

There’s this peculiar phenomenon in queer spaces that I’ve come to call ‘the gay cold shoulder’ – that icy, razor-sharp, side-eye moment where we look at another gay man and silently say “who does she think she is?!” It’s a defence mechanism so refined, it could win olympic gold in psychological gymnastics. I remember a time, last year, when I experienced this masterclass in missed connection first hand during a night out with my friends; straig…