US EditionAsking Eric: Grown Grandkids’ Birthday Celebrations Don’t Include Grandma Anymore, and that’s Sad
A grandmother has shared her condo pool code for years yet questions why she is excluded from her grown grandchildren's birthday celebrations despite her efforts to connect.
- A grandmother wrote to Eric asking if it's unreasonable to want invitations to her grown grandchildren's birthday celebrations, noting she shares her beach condo pool code but is no longer invited to out-to-dinners.
- Family dynamics appear to involve the daughters managing competing plans while a woman who uses the pool code takes up summer residence, affecting neighbors despite likely affording her own condo.
- The letter recalls childhood rituals like a special “You are special today” plate and notes the woman who gives a $50 gift card for the entire summer as scant reciprocation.
- Eric recommended that the grandmother ask directly if she can attend celebrations, and he also suggests ending free pool access if the arrangement feels one-sided.
- Practical options include the grandmother redefining pool access terms, raising fees for pool use, checking condo association bylaws, or using public pools and private gyms as alternatives.
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16 Articles
ASKING ERIC: Grandmother wants invites to grown grandchildren's birthday
DEAR ERIC: My three daughters have grown children and celebrate their children’s birthdays by each family going out to dinner with its immediate members. When my grandchildren were small, the families had at-home celebrations to which I was always invited.…
Asking Eric: I want to celebrate my grandkids’ birthdays, even though they’re grown
Dear Eric: My three daughters have grown children and celebrate their children’s birthdays by each family going out to dinner with its immediate members. When my grandchildren were small, the families had at-home celebrations to which I was always invited. I miss those times, especially since I am no longer invited to the out-to-dinners, at which I would gladly pay for my meal.
Asking Eric: Grandmother no longer gets invitations to birthday parties
DEAR ERIC: My three daughters have grown children and celebrate their children’s birthdays by each family going out to dinner with its immediate members. When my grandchildren were small, the families had at-home celebrations to which I was always invited. I miss those times, especially since I am no longer invited to the out-to-dinners, at which I would gladly pay for my meal. Is it too much to ask to be included in celebrating my grandchildren?
Asking Eric: Should I ask to be invited to my grown grandchildren’s birthday dinners?
"When my grandchildren were small, the families had at-home celebrations to which I was always invited. I miss those times, especially since I am no longer invited to the dinners ..."
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