I like to swim. I like to go to the movies alone on a Sunday afternoon. I like hosting an outdoor karaoke night for the neighbors every year. I hate being late. I hate cleaning my house, but I love to go to bed with a clean kitchen.I did not know any of this about myself when my kids were growing up. I learned it all in the Big After, when they left for college. Actually, no. I really started to meet myself before they left. In the years and the…