The Relationship Coach: The backfire effect of people pleasing

The Relationship Coach: The backfire effect of people pleasing

Editor’s note: This column was published originally on Sept. 26, 2020. As someone who earned a master’s in the art of people pleasing, I know a thing or two. People pleasing can be very insidious, often disguising itself as kindness or generosity, but anytime we are taking actions in order to get something from someone, even if it’s just their approval, we are engaging in pleasing people. How do you know if your actions are to please? When you h…