Relatives Go Out of Their Way To Hurt Woman's Feelings
The mother buried the ashes without telling the writer and later refused to explain, leaving the family at a stalemate, Dear Abby said.
- A woman contacted Dear Abby regarding Mom, who secretly buried her father's ashes without informing her after the writer moved to another state to retire.
- The writer describes Mom as 'mentally ill and narcissistic' and notes she has long been the family scapegoat. She believes the exclusion stems from resentment over her decision to move away.
- Following her father's death three months after moving, the writer begged to help with arrangements, but Mom insisted she stay put. She later received only a video of a private service.
- Abigail Van Buren advised the writer to remind herself that Mom is narcissistic. Van Buren noted the writer appears to have always been the family scapegoat, explaining the exclusion.
- Van Buren recommends visiting the burial site if known to find comfort. If the location remains unknown, she suggests spending time with people who appreciate her rather than dwelling on past betrayals.
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Chicago Sun Times
Dear Abby: Relatives go out of their way to hurt woman's feelings
DEAR ABBY: After many years living near and helping my parents, I moved to another state to retire. My dad died three months after I moved. I begged my mother to let me fly back and help her with his arrangements, but she insisted I stay put.Some weeks later, and two days after we had talked on the phone, she secretly buried my dad's ashes without telling me. I was devastated to receive a pathetic video of her, my brother, and a priest conductin…
Dear Abby: Narcissistic mom buried my dad without even telling me
Dear Abby: After many years living near and helping my parents, I moved to another state to retire. My dad died three months after I moved. I begged my mother to let me fly back and help her with his arrangements, but she insisted I stay put.
Dear Abby: I think my mom punished me for moving away by burying my dad without notifying me
Dear Abby: After many years living near and helping my parents, I moved to another state to retire. My dad died three months after I moved. I begged my mother to let me fly back and help her with his arrangements, but she insisted I stay put.
Dear Abby: Narcissistic mother betrayed me for the last time, but it’s been 2 years and I’m still not over it
Dear Abby: After many years living near and helping my parents, I moved to another state to retire. My dad died three months after I moved. I begged my mother to let me fly back and help her with his arrangements, but she insisted I stay put.
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East Bay TimesDear Abby: After my wife’s tepid answers, I feel like I should file for divorce
Plus: My mom secretly buried my dad's ashes.
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