Letter writer doesn't want to build new friendship
- In the spring, the writer attended an event and met a woman with whom they shared common interests and a great time, but now declines pursuing a friendship after she reached out via email.
- Seeking guidance from Eric, the writer hopes to decline further interaction without hurting the woman's feelings, preferring a definitive answer over vague responses that might leave her confused.
- Effective communication requires clarity, as ambiguity often causes unnecessary confusion for both parties and being honest about differing desires allows each to respect the other's autonomy.
- A brief note expressing appreciation for the initial meeting while gently clarifying the writer's lack of interest prevents misinterpretation and respects the woman's autonomy.
- Navigating new acquaintances often involves setting social boundaries, and communicating these limits kindly preserves the integrity of initial interactions while ensuring the writer avoids unwanted obligations.
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Asking Eric: I always come on strong, then realize I need to back off; it’s hard to communicate that
Dear Eric: In the spring I attended an event and sat next to a woman around my age who was absolutely delightful. We discovered we had a lot in common and had a great old time.
Asking Eric: It might have seemed like I wanted a new friend, but I don’t
Dear Eric: In the spring I attended an event and sat next to a woman around my age who was absolutely delightful. We discovered we had a lot in common and had a great old time.At that luncheon I was willing to share personal things right away and I know I gave off messages that would suggest that I am indeed open to a closer relationship. I tend to jump into things with enthusiasm and then want to back off. I even said something of that kind to …
Sun-Sentinel
The Mercury newsAsking Eric: Once again I’m regretting my enthusiasm toward a stranger
A luncheon attendee overshared and gave off welcoming signals, but now needs to let down an eager acquaintance who keeps emailing to schedule get-togethers.
Missoulian
Letter writer doesn't want to build new friendship
Dear Eric: In the spring, I attended an event and sat next to a woman around my age who was absolutely delightful. We discovered we had a lot in common and had a great old time.
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