Friends still send cards but haven't visited in years

Friends send cards but refuse to visit

R. Eric Thomas Tribune Content Agency Dear Eric: We have friends, who we have not seen in more than a decade. Yet the wife sends… Login to continue reading Login Sign up for complimentary access Sign Up Now Close

Asking Eric: Longtime friends send plenty of cards but never, ever visit

Dear Eric: We have friends who we have not seen in more than a decade. Yet the wife sends us cards for every holiday, our birthdays and at Christmas, many times with gift cards enclosed.For a while I told them to stop by and see us, or to call and chat. That never happens, and I am just wondering what her motivation is? Thanks for your thoughts. – Gifts Only

Asking Eric: Friends send cards but refuse to visit

Advice columnist R. Eric Thomas answers his readers' questions in this May 20, 2026 edition of Asking Eric.

Asking Eric: Is it even a friendship anymore if you send cards, but never stop by or call?

Dear Eric: We have friends, who we have not seen in more than a decade. Yet the wife sends us cards for every holiday, our birthdays and at Christmas, many times with gift cards enclosed.

Friends still send cards but haven't visited in years

Dear Eric: We have friends, who we have not seen in more than a decade. Yet the wife sends us cards for every holiday, our birthdays and at Christmas, many times with gift cards enclosed.

Column | Asking Eric: Friends send cards for every holiday but refuse to visit

Why do friends who never accept an invitation to see each other insist on sending a card for every occasion?