US EditionDear Abby: Woman’s failed relationships have her stalling on romance with new man who treats her right
Dear Abby advises patience in a relationship slowed by past trauma, recommending up to a year before reassessing commitment, reflecting caution advised for those with difficult histories.
- After four months, the anonymous reader wrote asking how long to wait as he is unsettled by dating Rita without a clear label.
- Rita's prior marriages — one 22 years and emotionally abusive, another manipulative — help explain her hesitation, as she said things were moving too fast and wanted to slow down.
- Only one real kiss has occurred to date, underscoring slow physical progress as the anonymous reader says Rita canceled dates but both maintain exclusivity.
- Abby advised patience and no pressure as the relationship unfolds, recommending a one-year boundary with an eight-month check-in to assess investment in the relationship with Rita.
- In the syndicated column, Abby offered guidance; Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by Pauline Phillips. Readers can contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Dear Abby: The woman I’m dating wants to take things slow, maybe too slow
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating “Rita” for four months. We peck on the lips, hug and hold hands, but we have had only one real kiss so far. Rita was first married for 22 years to an emotionally abusive man and then remarried to a manipulative one. She said we were going too fast and she wanted to slow down. I understood and have exerted no pressure on her.
Dear Abby: I don’t mind taking things slow, but am I ignoring woman’s obvious red flags?
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating “Rita” for four months. We peck on the lips, hug and hold hands, but we have had only one real kiss so far. Rita was first married for 22 years to an emotionally abusive man and then remarried to a manipulative one. She said we were going too fast and she wanted to slow down. I understood and have exerted no pressure on her.
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East Bay TimesDear Abby: We’ve had one kiss in four months. Am I wasting my time?
Dear Abby: We've had one real kiss in four months.
Dear Abby: She wants to take it slow ... how long should I give her to figure out what she wants?
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating “Rita” for four months. We peck on the lips, hug and hold hands, but we have had only one real kiss so far. Rita was first married for 22 years to an emotionally abusive man and then remarried to a manipulative one. She said we were going too fast and she wanted to slow down. I understood and have exerted no pressure on her.
Dear Abby: Woman’s failed relationships have her stalling on romance with new man who treats her right
DEAR ABBY: I have been dating “Rita” for four months. We peck on the lips, hug and hold hands, but we have had only one real kiss so far. Rita was first married for 22 years to an emotionally abusive man and then remarried to a manipulative one. She said we were going too fast and she wanted to slow down. I understood and have exerted no pressure on her.
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