Dear Abby: Three’s a Crowd in Family’s Housing Arrangement
Abigail Van Buren says the wife should insist on being treated as an equal partner and consider legal advice if the exclusion continues.
- A reader known as Discounted wrote to Dear Abby about being excluded from decisions regarding a shared home purchased with her husband and his sister, an issue escalating after recent storm damage requiring insurance and contractor involvement.
- The trio purchased the home a few years ago to afford a nicer living situation; while sharing bills and chores generally works, the husband and sister-in-law frequently make house decisions without including the writer.
- Although the writer has complained loudly and clearly each time this happens, the husband and sister-in-law usually apologize without changing their behavior, leaving the writer feeling disrespected and ready to move out.
- Abigail Van Buren advised the writer to insist on being treated as an equal partner in the deal, suggesting consultation with a lawyer or marriage counselor if exclusion continues.
- Whether the living arrangement remains viable depends on the husband and sister-in-law's willingness to cooperate, as the writer must weigh her legal rights against the advantage of residing in their nicer home.
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Dear Abby: My husband and his sister make decisions without me
Dear Abby: A few years ago, my husband and I bought a home together with his sister. We share the bills and chores and, for the most part, it works. We live in a nicer home than we could afford on our own.
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