Dear Abby: My mother wants a relationship with my adult kids, but she ignored them growing up

In Distress over Lingering Resentment About My Deceased Parents

I’m a homemaker in my 60s. I grew up with a father who lived at his own pace and remained indifferent to his family, and a mother who at times would subject us to her fiery temper. My mother had no interest in me even when I was a child, which made me feel lonely. I think most parents try not to make their children suffer and unwaveringly wish for their health and happiness. I hear so-called toxic parents are those who love only themselves and n…

Dear Abby: Can an absent grandmother demand a relationship years later?

Dear Abby: I am a mother of six and a grandma to four. We are a close family and enjoy each other’s company. My mom is nearly 80. For reasons I could never understand, she didn’t enjoy my children when they were growing up and didn’t connect deeply with them. She once commented to me that she was bored with women her age because they were “obsessed” with their grandchildren and she wanted deeper conversations.

Dear Abby: My mother wants a relationship with my adult kids, but she ignored them growing up

What is my responsibility now?