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Asking Eric: Decades Later, My Bullies Still Have Power

A 75-year-old reader asked R. Eric Thomas how to stop reliving painful bullying memories that the correspondent says 'never stopped' and still replay in his head.
Because the experiences were never processed, the columnist says the treatment at school and work left unprocessed trauma and bullies' messages that occupy mental space.
In school, the reader says fists were shaken in his face and he was mocked for being skinny, shy, and having bad pimples; at work, coworkers talked over him in meetings and laughed as he walked through shared areas.
Thomas recommends talking to a therapist about the experiences, entering therapy sessions with the simple therapeutic goal `I don't want to be tortured by the memories of bullying`.
Think of recovery as similar to physical therapy, where strengthening other parts helps heal, and changing relationship to memory can disempower it during long-term recovery.

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