Asking Eric: When People Ask; ‘Where Are You Really From?’ Asking Why They Want to Know May Help

Asking Eric: ‘Where are you really from?’ isn’t an appropriate question to ask

Dear Eric: As a Spanish-American, my ancestors from Spain have resided in the United States since long before the first Thanksgiving.When one acquaintance inquired about my origin, I assumed he meant the city I recently relocated from. He clarified by asking if I was from Guatemala. In a social context, that question is exclusively directed at me. I have also encountered strangers who have initiated such inquiries. In such instances, I find it a…

Asking Eric: I’m tired of questions about my heritage

DEAR ERIC: As a Spanish-American, my ancestors from Spain have resided in the United States since long before the first Thanksgiving.

Asking Eric: A very simple answer that will shut down most awkward questions about your background

Dear Eric: As a Spanish-American, my ancestors from Spain have resided in the United States since long before the first Thanksgiving.

Asking Eric: Spanish-American tired of questions about heritage

Advice columnist R. Eric Thomas answers his readers' questions in this August 21, 2025 edition of Asking Eric.

Asking Eric: When people ask; ‘where are you really from?’ asking why they want to know may help

Dear Eric: As a Spanish-American, my ancestors from Spain have resided in the United States since long before the first Thanksgiving.

Column | Asking Eric: Spanish-American tired of questions about heritage

How do you respond to “annoying” questions about your heritage?