Miss Manners: My Dear Friend Now Looks Like My Attacker

Miss Manners: Friend’s new facial hair is seriously traumatizing for me; what can be done?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A very dear friend of mine, with whom I’ve been friends for 50 years, has grown a full set of very long facial hair. He now has a full beard and a large mustache, all gray.

Miss Manners: My dear friend’s facial hair reminds me of past trauma. Is there any way to get beyond this?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A very dear friend of mine, with whom I’ve been friends for 50 years, has grown a full set of very long facial hair. He now has a full beard and a large mustache, all gray.

Miss Manners: My dear friend now looks like my attacker

Miss Manners: I can’t hug my dear friend of 50 years because of his beard

DEAR MISS MANNERS: A very dear friend of mine, with whom I’ve been friends for 50 years, has grown a full set of very long facial hair. He now has a full beard and a large mustache, all gray.

Miss Manners: I’m traumatized by my friend’s facial hair

Miss Manners: He now looks like the man who assaulted me.

Miss Manners: My close friend changed their appearance and now looks like my attacker

Advice from Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin.