US EditionPublished • loading... • Updated
Asking Eric: Old lover’s apology just tore open all the wounds I’ve tried to heal for 45 years
An apology from an old lover facing health issues has reopened 45-year-old trauma, leading the woman to seek counseling and struggle to find age-appropriate support.
- The former lover reappeared through mutual friends after their relationship 45 years ago, and at a private coffee meeting, he cried and told the letter writer he would always love her.
- Given his marriage, the ex appears motivated by age and health, and the letter writer believes he spoke to make amends before he dies, officials note.
- A few days later, she called her former lover, a woman in her early 70s, asking him not to repeat words that made her relive past trauma; she previously underwent extensive counseling and is married to a wonderful man.
- Consider a letter that forgives but states that present friendship isn't possible, and she was advised to tell mutual friends not to engage, R. Eric Thomas recommended these steps.
- She reports she can’t find a counselor with her age and experience, but the columnist recommended considering trauma-informed therapists regardless of age, emphasizing that amends include acknowledgment, apology, and effort, and that her feelings aren’t faults.
Insights by Ground AI
11 Articles
11 Articles
Asking Eric: 45 years ago I had the love of my life, until he married someone else out of the blue
Dear Eric: I was in a relationship with a man 45 years ago who I loved more than I loved anyone in my life. Then he married someone. He didn’t tell me, I heard it from a colleague.
·Syracuse, United States
Read Full Article
Asking Eric: An old love tried to make amends but it just traumatized me
Dear Eric: I was in a relationship with a man 45 years ago who I loved more than I loved anyone in my life. Then he married someone. He didn’t tell me, I heard it from a colleague.I was able to get myself together with a lot of counseling. I married a wonderful man who loves me with all his heart, and I love him the same. I was able to stay away from the first man for many years. Recently, he has come back into my life through mutual friends. He…
·Harrisburg, United States
Read Full Article
Coverage Details
Total News Sources11
Leaning Left3Leaning Right0Center8Last UpdatedBias Distribution73% Center
Bias Distribution
- 73% of the sources are Center
73% Center
L 27%
C 73%
Factuality
To view factuality data please Upgrade to Premium