Asking Eric: Meet-and-greet with musician leads to infatuation
R. Eric Thomas says the crush is harmless and common, and the writer should redirect the feeling toward the music and spouse.
- A 70-year-old reader married for 38 years feels infatuated with a musician after a recent meet-and-greet, comparing the feelings to childhood admiration for Paul in the Beatles.
- Developing a parasocial relationship with celebrities is common when fans enjoy their work, but these giddy infatuated feelings are part of the performance act and do not reflect reality, Eric Thomas notes.
- To manage these feelings, the reader should redirect energy toward the music rather than fantasizing about future meetings, avoiding unhealthy habits like excessive social media scrolling.
- Rather than creating distance, Eric Thomas suggests integrating the fandom into the marriage by listening to music together, helping the reader recognize there are no intentions of running away.
- Ultimately, the crush appears wholly innocuous, as the reader has no intention of cheating and simply enjoys the charisma and talent of the musician.
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Meet-and-greet with musician leads to infatuation
Dear Eric: I'm 70 and very happily married (together 38 years). We both love music and lately after seeing a performance, there's a meet-and-greet with the musicians. A particular musician and I have chatted several times. The last time, I…
Asking Eric: Crush on a performer seems harmless, so how do I handle these feelings?
Dear Eric: I’m 70 and very happily married (together 38 years). We both love music and lately after seeing a performance, there’s a meet-and-greet with the musicians. A particular musician and I have chatted several times. The last time, I got an autograph and a hug. I am on cloud 9!
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Dear Eric: I’m 70 and very happily married (together 38 years). We both love music and lately after seeing a performance, there’s a meet-and-greet with the musicians. A particular musician and I have chatted several times. The last time, I…
Asking Eric: How do I handle my feelings?
Dear Eric: I love my spouse (I would never cheat) and I have assured my spouse it’s like when I was a kid and loved Paul in the Beatles. But now I just can’t shake my infatuation and look forward to meeting this musician again.
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