Dear Abby: Friend Who Ghosted Me for 35 Years Wants to Reconnect; Do I Let Bygones Be Bygones?
The advice-seeker may ignore the renewed contact or ask what prompted it after decades apart, Dear Abby said.
- After more than 35 years of silence, a former college friend has recently reached out to a reader seeking to reconnect. The reader, identified as Reluctant Former Friend, describes the sudden attempt as unexpected.
- The friend moved to the Midwest decades ago and ceased all communication with the group, though she regularly visits family in the reader's area. This geographic distance and silence created the long separation.
- Reluctant Former Friend feels conflicted about the outreach, noting the friend was absent during major life transitions including a new job, marriage, divorce, and retirement. She acknowledges the friend's bravery but questions the relationship's foundation.
- Dear Abby suggests the reader can either ignore the outreach or ask what prompted the contact after decades apart. If meeting occurs, she can explain their paths diverged significantly over time.
- Maintaining relationships with friends who supported her throughout her life remains the reader's priority. Abby emphasizes she is not obligated to revive a friendship that ended decades ago.
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Dear Abby: After decades, an old friend has reconnected. Do I have to meet with her?
DEAR ABBY: I had three close girlfriends in college. We lost touch with one of them more than 35 years ago. She has family in our area but moved to the Midwest and stopped communicating with us, though she regularly visits family nearby. Over the years, I got a new job, married, had two kids, divorced, moved and retired. This friend has recently gotten back in touch. I don’t know what prompted it. I have friends who have supported me all my life…
Dear Abby: Friend who ghosted me for 35 years wants to reconnect; do I let bygones be bygones?
DEAR ABBY: I had three close girlfriends in college. We lost touch with one of them more than 35 years ago. She has family in our area but moved to the Midwest and stopped communicating with us, though she regularly visits family nearby.
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Dear Abby: I had three close girlfriends in college. We lost touch with one of them more than 35 years ago. She has family in our area but moved to the Midwest and stopped communicating with us, though she regularly visits family nearby.
Abby: Old friend reappears after years of no contact
DEAR ABBY: I had three close girlfriends in college. We lost touch with one of them more than 35 years ago. She has family in our area but moved to the Midwest and stopped communicating with us, though she regularly…
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Dear Abby: Old friend reappears after years of no contact
Dear Abby: I had three close girlfriends in college. We lost touch with one of them more than 35 years ago. She has family in our area but moved to the Midwest and stopped communicating with us, though she regularly…
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