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Ex-Etiquette: Respecting Each Other's Turf
A father says his ex attends nearly every daughter-related event, while she argues she has every right to be there.
Jann Blackstone of Tribune News Service addresses parents struggling with exes attending every activity, including soccer practices, during designated parenting time, creating friction.
Before arriving at an event, parents should ask themselves if they are attending to support their child or because they fear the child might forget them during the other parent's time.
Rule No. 9 of good ex-etiquette, "Respect each other's turf," suggests that maintaining boundaries prevents the feeling of being constantly monitored by an ex-partner.
Parents do not need to arrive together or pretend to be best friends to support their child; simply being gracious when both are present allows the child to see both parents supporting them.
Ultimately, a child has two parents all the time, regardless of custody schedules, so moving beyond competing for presence allows both parents to maintain a healthy relationship with their child.